about me

My coaching method builds on my belief that our capacity and ability to love (and be loved by) others is directly proportional to our capacity and ability to love ourselves.

I believe that to best improve the quality of a relationship, we must also take into account and improve the quality of our relationship with ourselves.

I guide couples to do exactly that. In my work, we oscillate between the relationship and the individuals in it, focusing on what can actually be done—actions to take—to get the results they want. 

I'll help you transform conflict into growth by giving you tools to shift out of damaging cycles, and increase your relationship skills and self esteem.  My background in psychology combined with my personal interest in spirituality helps others clarify, reflect, and change their lives.

With certifications in coaching, Neuro Linguistic Programming and the Compassionate Inquiry approach, I offer actionable items in each session which weave between personal growth, self love, communication, conflict resolution, and connection.

trainings

Bachelor of Arts, Communication, Psychology — College of Saint Benedict

Master Practitioner Certification in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) — Carl Buchheit, NLP Marin

Compassionate Inquiry Professional Training — Gabor Maté

Evolutionary Playground — Gay & Katie Hendricks, Hendricks Institute

Conscious Loving — Gay & Katie Hendricks, Hendricks Institute

Couples Course — Gay & Katie Hendricks, Hendricks Institute

Imago Therapy Training Workshop — Harville & Helen Hendrix

Preventing the Four Horseman in Your Relationship — The Gottman Institute

“Gottman Connect” Relationship Coaching + Conflict Resolution, The Gottman Institute

Intro to Dev. Model 1: Learn How To Treat High-Conflict and Conflict-Avoidant Couples— Ellyn Bader, Couples Institute

“Heart Coach” Relationship Coaching Training — Annie Lalla, Virtual Coach

Embracing All of You Workshop — Richard Schwartz and Gabor Maté, Sounds True

“Inside the Office of Esther Perel” — Esther Perel, Sessions Live 2022

“The Great Adaptation” Workshop — Esther Perel, Sessions Live 2021

testimonials

  • Martha is exceptional! She was patient with us throughout the entire process, meeting us where we were at with each situation and protecting each of our feelings and perspectives. She gave wonderful suggestions to my husband and I that were both appropriate for each of our personalities and allowed for personal and relationship growth between the two of us. She helped both of us step outside of our comfort zone (in a safe space) in order to address how we see and respond to conflicts that frequently arose in our relationship. She helped us honor our boundaries and find collaboration in our marriage!

    Krysta, New Jersey

  • Martha is a breath of fresh air to say it in a simple sentence! Her easy presence, authenticity, and true love for believing in love and showing it through her actions and how she coaches has been a lifeline for my partner and I's relationship over and over. Both in joint sessions and one on ones I always feel held in love, supported, and challenged in just the right ways.

    Bryce, Utah

  • My overall experience with Martha has been a wealth of knowledge and growth. I have done a lot of work on myself and Martha has helped me deepen my self-awareness in ways I have previously not been able to access. She takes the time to understand my partner and I fully individually, as well has the entity that is our relationship. She utilizes somatic modalities that have really helped me become more in touch with signals in my body. The communication, understanding, and awareness within my relationship has strengthened and deepened. Martha really knows what she is doing in this space and we thank her for her role in transforming our relationship.

    Emily, Utah

  • I have gained much more awareness around my state of regulation and consequentially, my response to conflict, whether it's with my husband, my children or even my patients at work. I am able to notice when I am not regulated much more quickly and take more immediate steps to get back into regulation so I can more appropriately manage conflict. I am also able to give my husband the space he needs during conflict when before I would pursue and overwhelm him. I am able to connect more with my husband in a fun, loving and spontaneous way since working with Martha.

    Krysta, New York

  • Working with Martha has saved my relationship. What used to take my partner and I days to resolve and repair (only to have the same conflict again later) has now turned into hours, sometimes even minutes. We are equipped to handle conflict in a way I've never known was possible, and our relationship is thriving because of it. I can't recommend her enough.

    -James, Texas

  • I feel so in touch with myself since working with Martha. The way she untangles my emotions and experiences and mirrors them back to me brings me greater clarity and gives me the support and confidence I need to have hard conversations, speak my truth and ask for what I want. Working with Martha I gain peace, quiet and a break from my mental chatter, giving my my heart has a moment to speak and be heard.

    Leah, Washington, D.C.

my approach

  • CLARIFY

    It all starts with identifying repeating conflicts, complaints, or experiences of disharmony. What are you experiencing that you don’t want, or what do you want that you don’t have?

  • REFLECT

    We examine your thoughts, fears, feelings and beliefs around these sub-optimal experiences—what stories are you running? What is your role in them?

  • CHANGE

    We walk through ways you can interrupt the sub-optimal pattern by changing the role you play in it, decreasing subconscious reactivity, and getting you what you want. Think of these as tools to improve your relationship.

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